Do you struggle with low self-esteem?

Self-esteem is such a vast subject and a lack of self-esteem affects so many aspects of your life, namely: your relationships, happiness, work and success.

For example:

  • Do you believe that you are not good enough?
  • Do you neglect your own needs?
  • Do you find it difficult to say ‘no’?
  • Do you sabotage your own success?
  • Do you bottle up your true feelings?
  • Are you afraid of making mistakes?
  • Do you mistrust your inner guidance?
  • Do you have a high sense of guilt?

If this is you, I share with you in this blog article three tips you can use now to raise your self-esteem.

Nathaniel Branden gives us the best definition of self-esteem In his bestselling book “The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem”:

“Self-esteem fully realized, is the experience that we are appropriate to life and to the requirements of life. More specifically, self-esteem is:

  1. Confidence in our ability to think, confidence in our ability to cope with the basic challenges of life; and
  2. Confidence in our right to be successful and happy, the feeling of being worthy, deserving, entitled to assert our needs and wants, achieve our values, and enjoy the fruits of our efforts.”

Following are my three tips to raise your self-esteem so that you can elevate your happiness and boost your self-confidence.

Tip no. 1: Increase your self-belief

Your self-belief pertains to the beliefs you have of yourself with regard to whom you are as a person and what you believe you can or cannot do. Your self-beliefs whether they are negative or positive affect the quality of your life and your inner happiness.

For example, if you believe that you are not good enough or that something will not work because you are not going to be perfect and good at it this will affect your motivation and happiness because you will feel defeated and hopeless.

Your self-beliefs are influenced by both the external (what people say about you) and internal (what you believe internally). Therefore, in order to raise your self-belief to a higher level: “I am enough” you must change the beliefs you have about yourself.

One result-oriented action you can take is to develop the new habit of becoming your best friend or supporter as if you were nurturing your inner child. Cheer yourself up so that you pick yourself up instead of putting yourself down or being hard on yourself.

When you consider the steps, you have taken until now you will realize that you have grown so much and your evolutionary process does not stop here it carries on and on.

Tip no. 2: Improve your self-image

You improve your self-image to the extent that you improve the way you view yourself. Moreover, the way you view yourself determines your actions and your results in life. If you want more positive results you must create a more positive self-image.

In order to improve the way, you view yourself so that you can attain positive results you need to hold another positive image in mind you can work with and you must move towards the new self-image you want to create.

Your result-oriented action is to answer the following question:

  • How do you want to show up in order to align with the new positive image you have created of yourself?

Note: the purpose of this exercise is to help you reconnect with your true essence by playing big as opposed to playing small.

In addition, one way of improving your self-image is to listen to others when they pay you a compliment. Do you listen to their compliment or do you ignore it? If it is the latter, pay attention to their compliments and praises and let them sink in. Allow yourself to receive their kind words. This will help boost your confidence and enhance your ability to receive with gratitude.

Tip no. 3: Allow yourself to make mistakes

You are probably a perfectionist and your low self-esteem stops you from taking action.

If you are highly critical of yourself and you fear being judged by others, it is time to let your armour down.

Making mistakes is part of the process of growth and should be considered as feedback. Therefore, mistakes are to be made because when you make mistakes and learn from them you raise your self-esteem. As a result of allowing yourself to make mistakes, you will learn something new and raise your level of self-awareness. The more you are self-aware the more powerful your become.

By allowing yourself to make mistakes you start moving towards maximizing your full potential and inner richness as opposed to sitting on the fence.

Here is a recap of my three tips to raise your self-esteem:

  1. Increase your self-belief
  2. Improve your self-image
  3. Allow yourself to make mistakes

It is time to stand up for yourself and be happy with yourself so that you can elevate your inner happiness and soar. This is your birthright.

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